As we begin the New Year, it’s common to reflect on the previous one. 

If there’s one important lesson that I learned in 2015, is one about what I truly want in a healthy relationship. From friendships to romantic bonds, it’s all about respecting myself and drawing reasonable boundaries. 

I’ve been enjoying my years of being single, but now I realize that I’m just not into dating guys who call me up every other month anymore. I want a real committed relationship. I want to get married, and have a loving and meaningful relationship.

In today’s dating culture, we are usually never highly invested in someone else. We are selfish. We are too busy. We don’t make time. We only fit people into our schedule when it’s convenient for us. Sad, but true.

If we were really into each other, we’d hang out more, be honest with each other and give each other our time. We’d talk, text, laugh and hang out together. They would be interested in hearing about my dreams, and I would ask about theirs. 

The beauty about failed relationships is that it has taught me what I don’t want. Failed relationships also allow me to appreciate the amazing relationships that I do have. 

In 2016, I vow to be true to myself. To honor and respect myself as a worthy woman. To be in alignment with my heart and my highest values. To cut ties from unhealthy relationships that go nowhere. 

When I’m in alignment, my heart can take me anywhere. And one thing that’s for sure is that God’s always with me and guiding me on the right path.